Intro to Sex Toys for Newbies

**This guide is made for beginners to get to know the basics of sex toys — like the common types, how to use them, and tips on picking the right one. We’ll have more detailed guides coming up so you can explore at your own pace.

What Are Sex Toys?

Sex toys are devices designed to bring pleasure. 

Much like a cozy chair or a relaxing foot bath helps us unwind, sex toys focus on stimulating sensitive areas, like our genitals, to enhance sexual enjoyment.

Because sex is often a taboo subject, sex toys don’t always get the attention they deserve. However, as more people recognize the health benefits of these products, they are becoming an increasingly important part of personal wellness.

Sex toys come in many forms—they can vibrate, thrust, suck, pulsate, and move in various ways to create pleasurable sensations. They can be used solo, with a partner, during quick breaks, or for longer sessions.

Beyond pleasure, sex toys can also:

• Help improve sleep and reduce stress

• Boost mental well-being and self-confidence

• Support body awareness and positivity

• Address issues like vaginal pain or tightness (vaginismus) and male challenges such as premature ejaculation
  …and much more!

Who Can Use Sex Toys?

Sex toys are for everyone—no matter your body type, gender, relationship status, or sexuality.

Even though marketing often tries to label products as “for men” or “for women,” these lines are pretty flexible. If it vibrates, chances are it’ll feel great no matter what you’re wearing or who you are. There’s no such thing as a “gay” or “straight” sex toy, and trying new things doesn’t change who you are.

Some people think sex toys aren’t for couples or feel awkward having them around, but really, they’re just an optional tool, like condoms or mood lighting, that can enhance intimacy, not replace it. Couples who use sex toys often say they experience better sex and stronger relationships.

What Types of Sex Toys Are There?

With so many options out there, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed when picking your first toy! So, I’ve simplified things by breaking them down into six main types you should know to get started.

Dildos

Dildos are the oldest and simplest type of sex toy—great if you’re not sure what you want. They don’t need batteries or electricity, so there’s no noise or extra features to worry about. Usually made from a single solid material, many dildos are designed to look like a penis, but you’ll also find lots of fun non-phallic or fantasy shapes. They’re mainly used for vaginal penetration, but if they have a flared base, they’re safe for anal use too.

Most dildos have a long, cylindrical shape, sometimes curved to hit the G-spot or P-spot. Because they’re usually cheaper to make, you’ll find a wide range of sizes and styles. Always check the measurements before buying, and when in doubt, start with a smaller size.

Vibrators

Vibrators are sex toys with built-in motors that create pleasurable vibrations. They can be used both externally and internally, making them incredibly versatile. Available in many shapes and styles, vibrators vary in features like intensity levels, vibration patterns, battery life, and noise. Whether you're looking for something discreet or powerful, there's a vibe out there to match your needs.

Suction Stimulators

Suction toys, also known as air pulse stimulators, are a newer type of sex toy that have quickly become popular. Made famous by brands like Womanizer and Satisfyer, these toys use gentle pressure waves to create a sucking sensation—usually focused on the clitoris, but some can also stimulate the penis. Many models combine suction with vibration for even more intense pleasure. While other brands have started offering similar toys, the originals are still known for the best quality and performance.

Plugs

Plugs are like the shorter, chubbier cousins of dildos. They’re designed for internal use too, but instead of being used for thrusting, plugs are meant to stay in place—literally plugging the hole. Most have a bulbous shape with a flared base to keep them comfortably and safely in position. While vaginal plugs are gaining popularity, butt plugs are by far the most common. Many are made of solid materials like silicone or metal, though you can find vibrating versions too.

Cock Rings

Finally, cock rings are another type of toy that is designed specifically for the penis. Typically as simple as a stretchy ring, the intention here is to restrict blood flow to allow for harder erections that also last longer. This is particularly good during couples play, and vibrating versions also exist to provide stimulation for both parties during penetrative sex. 

Choosing the Right Toy For You

Picking your first sex toy is a whole topic on its own—something I hope to cover soon! But for now, here are a few quick tips to help you get started:

• What do you like?
  Think about how you already enjoy being touched or stimulated. Do you like penetration or prefer clitoral stimulation? If penetration’s your thing, start with a dildo. If you want something more targeted, like clitoral vibes, a bullet vibrator could be perfect. There’s a toy for every preference.
• Who is it for?
  If you’re buying for someone else, it’s a good idea to chat with them first. Even the best intentions can feel like pressure if it’s a surprise. If you want it to be a secret gift, consider a gift card so you can pick something together later.
• What is it made of?
  Not all toys are created equal. Because this industry isn’t fully regulated, some use unsafe materials. Silicone is your safest bet.
• Where should you buy it?
  We recommend buying from well-known brands with good reviews on Amazon, or from established independent websites that specialize in sex toys.

Alex & Amy – Jan 20, 2025